A friend of mine shared some very wise words this evening and I’d like to replicate and add to them here.
Whatever it is that made you arrive on this page, whether you have a long term mental or physical condition, the holidays can be a little less jolly. The twinkly lights, the parties that you can’t or try to attend but feel on the outskirts, the social or financial worries, any or all of these can feel or appear worse this time of year because we’re meant to be happy and jolly.
For me, it’s Christmas eve at 12.30am, so technically Christmas, and I’m laying in bed with a tens machine strapped to my buttock in the wild hope that it will have the same effect as it did with my shoulder last night where the muscle twitching over the course of a few hours gently manipulated my subluxed joint back in (Whoop! ). Pain sucks. It makes you tired and grumpy and do you know what? It’s OK for you to feel sad about the loss of normality, or the lack of involvement, or just that it hurts. What is not ok is to feel guilty because you can’t put your chronic condition in a neat box and hide it take life easier for others. Invisible Illness can be tough for families and friends to understand and you may find you get a few extra “can’t you just…”, or “have you tried…” comments. People have good intentions at heart.
Your mental health is just as important at Christmas as it is the rest of the year. If you need to talk to someone & you’re in the UK, call:
Samaritans – 116 123
Mind – 0300 1233 393
Rethink – 0300 5000 927
If you’re at risk of harm please call 999.
Other useful numbers include:
Refuge – 0808 2000 247
Shelter – 0808 800 4444
Police non-emergency – 101
NHS non-emergency – 111
I hope you enjoy the holidays, but if you need help, please reach out either to the professionals above, to family & friends, or just the many online communities who provide a huge bolster.
However, if all you needed from this post was a refill of smiles, have this Christmas squirrel.